Many teenagers just don't understand the responsibilities that go along with being sexually active, they don't even think about them. But maybe they should sit back and think before taking part. People should not be having sex just to have it, but because they are in love. The only time premarital sex may be okay is in the boundaries of a loving, trusting relationship. Other wise you will most likely regret it when you get older.

There is so much feeling that goes into being sexually active most teenagers wouldn't even be able to handle the emotional stress that gets added to the relationship after engaging in intercourse. The person's self-esteem is at high risk, how will people feel after the relationship ends? It has been prove that "While many people feel guilty for having sex, or feel hurt and used when a relationship ends after they participated in sex with the other person, abstinence affirms self-esteem." (Affirming self-esteem 1). But then there are the small numbers of people that actually don't regret abstinence.

There are ways to show the partner in a relationship that there is a lot of love for them without engaging in sexual intercourse. Instead of sex something

's that people chose to do are, go for a walk on the beach, give each other a massage, have a snowball fight, or make dinner together. Touching may be okay as long as you don't exchange body fluids. Sex is only okay within the boundaries of love, and with out love it just isn't worth it.

One thing that no one should have to deal with is being pressured into participating in sexual activity. Sure, people can come up with a lot of reasons or excuses to maybe trick their partner into having sex with them.. But how meaningful can it be if both people in the relationship don't want it? There are a lot of typical lines that teens will use to trick someone into it, but it's not right to do that. Some of the lines people use are: "If you love me, you would", "I'll leave you if you don't", "You know you want to", and "I won't tell anyone". No one should fall for these lame excuses, because it's everyone's own choice to decide for themselves, and if someone pressures their partner when they know they don't want to, it's obvious they are the ones that don't love their partners.

Commitment is the most important thing in a relationship especially when participating in sexual activity. "However when we have sex with another person before marriage, we are cheating on our future spouse, cheating them out of the gift of our virginity that rightfully alone belongs to that person alone" (Cheating 1). That however is a very controversial quote because it may very well be that someone did love the person they lost their virginity to before they got married, but then maybe things just didn't work out. A relationship shouldn't be built on sex while one that is healthy in other aspects can grow and develop on many levels in addition to the sexual level and that's the way a real relationship should be.

There are proven to be many advantages of abstinence such as, more self respect, security that one partner isn't using the other partner for sex, chance to develop more in-depth relationships, less worries regarding pregnancies, and sexually transmitted diseases, and emotional betrayal. But there are people who can't just listen and be satisfied with "Just Say No!".

There is not set right or wrong time when it's okay to engage in sex. People can tell when they're ready. If someone still has concerns or is scared they definitely shouldn't plunge into those types of responsibilities. If even one of the people isn't comfortable enough to discuss sex, and what steps ne

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