The first group are "infants" (DeBord, 1997). This group cannot grasp the concept of friction but can detect changes in their parents behaviors. The infant may react in a variety of ways. The infant may seem uneasy. They may not eat or sleep properly or they might show signs of digestive problems. There are many things that parents can do to help (DeBord, 1997).

Infants are not stupid. They can sense bad feelings between people and will act on those observations. It is best to not argue or fight around the infant. Parents should also be aware to allow the child to have a desired object that will provide them with security. Parents should also not be afraid to ask for help from "family and friends" (DeBord, 1997). When the child naps, it is best for the parent to also nap along with the child to keep from ge

Parents of children of this age should allow child to seek professional help if signs of depression appear. As with younger children, set aside special time to be with the child. Allow the child to express sadness in his/her own way even if it includes crying. Do not ever tell a child to not cry. The child should be allowed some privacy (DeBord, 1997).

"Toddlers" (DeBord, 1997) are the second group. They know that they do not live with both parents but they cannot grasp the reason why. Toddlers that are going through this may experience a worsened terrible two's syndrome. This can include difficulty sleeping and "growing up". "Growing up" means to move away from infantile behaviors and to become more independent. The toddler might be afraid that if the custodial parent leaves, even to go to work, that he/she may never come back. The child may become attached to the custodial parent and cry excessively when he/she leaves, even for a moment. The toddler might cause problems in day care or other facilities such as throwing tantrums or biting (DeBord, 1997).

The final group are "preteens and adolescents" (DeBord, 1997). This age group completely understands about what a divorce is and knows that it will not change back but does not want to accept it. The child may feel that if he/she acts perfect, the parents will get back together. The child might feel that the "adult problems" such as money are their problems and that they should have to worry also. Feeling as though they need to grow up too soon is another common problem (DeBord, 1997).

The child might be asked to participate in therapy alone or with one or both parents (DeBord, 1997). The children should never be asked to choose between parents and should be given as equal time as possible of visitation. Children should be constantly reminded that th

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