Gentlemen

A detailed Summary of Gentlemen

When you hear the word "gentleman" what does it make you think of? Does it make you think of your father? How about your husband or boyfriend? Do you consider these males, in your life, to be gentlemen? You should. These are very influential people in your life, and they should be gentlemen. They should be firm yet gentle. These gentlemen should be teaching the youth of our time how to become gentlemen as well. There is a lack of gentlemen and that should not be the case. In fact, we as a society should have an abundance of gentlemen. A gentleman is a male who not only possesses manners, dresses nicely, and has the ability to treat everyone as an equal. He is also not embarrassed to show that he is a gentleman.

Manners are important to posses. They get people noticed. Manners are not hard to learn yet so many people lack them. Holding a door open for a person goes a long way. Usually when you do this people are grateful. Something like that should not have to be thought about. It should just happen. Holding a door open for anyone, not just females, should be an automatic thing; if it is not automatic then you are liable to forget to do it and then someone might think that you are shallow and no

Being a gentleman especially includes doing the little things. According to my friend Stephanie, from Quebec, she says, "When he spends some time alone with her, and not always his friends; when he makes her little presents; when he has the right answer to- Do you know what day it is? When he makes her dinner: those things do not have to be done every day, but a couple of times a year would be cool!" It's amazing how far the little things go in any kind of relationship.

I had a friend, named Mark Caswell, back in Brampton, Ontario. He used to be one of the most polite and gentle people that I know. Once he started playing hockey his entire personality changed. He went from a very mild-mannered person to this extremely rude and rough person. It was because of the people that he was hanging around that caused this change. It was not because of the game of hockey that he changed, because there are many people that I know that play hockey and yet they are some of the biggest gentlemen that you will ever meet. The game itself demands that you play it with a respect for others even though you need to be tough.

The goal of a gentleman is to treat not just females, but everyone as equals. According to John Henry Cardinal Newman a gentleman's "greatest concern" is, "to make every one at their ease and at home. He has his eyes on all his company; he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd;" (The Victoria Web, Newman on the Gentleman) We are living in an age where discrimination is becoming less and less prominent. A true test of a gentleman is to see if he treats everyone the same, and not just the female companion that he may happen to be with.

The way you look is just as important as how you act. If you want to be considered a gentleman it is helpful to look like a gentleman. It is amazing how people react to others just by what they wear. If a person were to watch others as they walked through a mall, they would notice that people will follow others with their eyes and from that they will make certain instant judgements about that person. People do discriminate and judge you by the things you wear. This may not be correct but it does happen. Therefore, to save yourself some problems you should dress in a respectable manner. If you dress in a very extreme way then, more than likely, you are going to attract some unnecessary attention. Wearing pants that are six sizes too big, and wearing shirts with controversial slogans may not be what you are looking to portray to others.

t well mannered. You also have to realize that it's not only the person that you hold the door open for that notices what you have done. Others that are around will take notice of this act. An act such as holding open a door should be done out of the goodness of your heart. You should not be looking for something like a "thank you" in return. That's not the reason for holding a door open. In a perfect world a person will say "thank you" but it doesn't always work like that. Just remember that if someone holds the door open for you then you should thank him or her. It's only common courtesy, but it still amazes me how many people do not acknowledge such an act. It is extremely rude and reflects badly on you. Remember, a gentleman always says "thank you". It serves to reinforce to the other person that what they have done is a valued act. Also, it is important to reply with something like, "You're welcome." This is, again, to acknowledge the other person.

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