In order to understand "Home Burial," one must look into how the husband and wife each deal with the loss of their child. The husband is the type of person who talks about his pains and wants to talk to his wife. The wife, however, does not want to talk to her husband; she wants to talk to someone else. Frost did an excellent job capturing two different types of grieving and uses them to produce an excellent poem. The question the reader must himself is: Who is right?.

             first of all, how did the husband deal with his pain? He makes a statement in the text, "'Can't a man speak of his own child he's lost?'" this statement shows that his way of grieving is to talk about his problems with a person to help him deal with the pain. He is the one who had to dig the grave for his own child. According to his wife, this apparently caused him no grief because as soon as he was done he came in and said, "'Three foggy mornings and one rainy day/Will rot the best birch fence a man can build.'" His wife thinks this statement means he does not care, but this is just another way he deals with grief. When he isn't talking about it, he floods his mind with random and senseless thoughts so his thoughts would not be on his lost child.

             On the other hand, the wife, whose name is Amy, deals with loss in a different way. When confronted by her husband to talk of her lost child, she says, "'I must get out of here, I must get air.'" This statement shows that she does not want to talk to her husband about the pain she is feeling. But where does she go to grieve? The text does not say exactly, but the reader may speculate that she would go to her family and friends of the same gender. "'Amy, don't go to someone else this time.'" Her husband does not want her to leave again. this shows that she has left in the past. She also believes that her husband does not understand how to grieve the loss of their child.