Survival
Do you ever survive the effects of divorce? If you have experienced divorce, or knew someone that has, this is a question you will ask yourself. Ron and Lilly were married for fifteen years and during the course of their marriage had three children ages 8, 10 and 12. Ron worked as a private attorney in a solo practice and Lilly worked in the home as a homemaker. Although Lilly worked in the home, she had a Bachelors degree in early childhood development. She had always wanted to work outside of the home, but she and Ron felt that it was more important to care for the children full time. When her husband announced that he was leaving, she wasn't surprised that he didn't care for her the same way he did when they first met, but she never dreamed he would leave her and the children. Ron packed his things the next day while the children were in school. The children were not informed their parents were separating and one day would divorce. Lilly was left alone to deal with the emotional upheaval this would cause the children. When the children returned from school, they sensed immediately something was wrong. They knew their parent's were not getting along and that their father was spending less time at home,
The breakdown of a family affects the entire family in many ways that is not noticed, but develops over a period of time. Children many times go through life believing that there was something they did to cause the break up of their parents, and always hope that their parents will get back together. Ron's children felt neglected by him, unloved as well as feeling guilty about there parent's breakup. Because Lilly's was not given an opportunity to work on their problems and improve communication, her self-esteem went completely down. Ron felt bad, but was feeling very relieved that he made the decision to leave. Divorce can be liberating, depressing, frustrating, or traumatic to any person who experiences it. Perhaps the most painful part on the process of divorce is when the children are involved and when they are made to choose sides. Ron and Lilly minimized the trauma in their children's life's, by agreeing on where the children would live. Although the children experienced changes and went through periods of fear of not knowing what was going to happen. Today the children appear to be functioning very well and are doing well in school. If parents can't be caring, loving and respectful of each other, then they shouldn't stay together. One and one half years after the divorce, Lilly was forced to become apart of the working class single moms of the world, Lilly got a job as a first grade teacher. This was an adjustment Because of Lilly's financial dilemma, she was not able to afford she and the children counseling. Ron was becoming more and more delinquent in sending alimony and child support for his family. Lilly was still trying to maintain being a stay at home mom although she realized the inevitable, she was not emotionally ready to go out in the work force. Children learn from their parent's, how relationships should be conducted and will handle their relationships as they see their parents. Since Ron and Lilly's divorce, their communication is better now then it was when they were married. The children witness their parent
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Approximate Word count = 1398
Approximate Pages = 6 (250 words per page double spaced)
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