These authors have reached millions of people with their metaphors, describing how men and women communicate differently. Instead of trying to force men and women into molds that do not fit them, Gray and Tannen's experiential relationship styles embraces the differences between men and women, and encourages communication through the understanding of basic differences. They make many arguments about how men and women act and what they want to hear in conversation. These examples help the reader grasp the author's ideas and arguments and make the book more interesting and easier to relate to.

As a popular marriage counselor, John Gray provides a unique and practical way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them. He attracts the readers by telling an ongoing story that helps the audience to relate. Once upon a time Martians (men) and Venusians (women) met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they resp

ected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets. Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibits mutually fulfilling loving relationships. The statement that "men are from Mars and women are from Venus" gives a clear image of the extremely different worlds of thinking and acting between the men and the women. That has been true since the creation of the human being, starting with Eva, Adam, their apple and their contradictions.

Gray never discusses the manner (ex. Rapport vs. Report), in which men and women talk or communicate but rather why the "do or do not" talk. He focuses more on the solutions that could bridge the gap between personal relationships. He has more or less the ideas of fixing the problems as where as Tannen would like to just point out the problems. Hoping by ways of understanding would arise a solution.

Tannen on the other hand, left the reader with same logic but without all of the "fuzzy warm feelings". She states " If you understand gender difference in what I call conversational style, you may not be able to prevent disagreements from arising, but you stand a better chance of preventing them from spiraling out of control." "Understanding the other's ways of talking is a giant leap across the communication gap between women and men, and a giant step toward opening lines of communication."

Gray's conclusion, in his book, is a heart warming reminder of how people should treat each other, but it leave something to be desired if you are the scientifically minded. He does not give hard evidence to understand what is the "truth" and the "real answer". Gray states "To be successful in our relationships we must accept and understand the different season of love. Sometimes love flows easily and automatically; at other times it requires effort" "We must also give ourselves this gift of understanding and not expecting to remember everything we have learned about being loving."

On the other hand men tend to report-talk

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