Interpersonal goals
Every day people make goals such as new years resolutions, Christmas wishes and the more common place weight loss goal. How often do we actually go through and assess our goals and determine our progress? To most of us, not often; to some of us it's more like never. We tend to forget about our aspirations and dreams once we have departed from the heat of the moment. Previously I had discussed six of my goals and aspirations in terms of interpersonal goals. Now is the time for me to take a look at exactly how far I have come with regard to each one of those goals; have I accomplished them, dismissed them or are they still a work in progress. Seeing how goals are communicational transactions between individuals I will also identify the behaviors/strategies I used to accomplish my goals and attain the final state that my goals have fallen in. People perceive us based on how we present ourselves. They judge our character based on the first few words that roll off our tongue. What you say can and will be held against you; that is the essence of the definition of self-presentation. The purpose of self-presentation is to have people perceive you in a way that is favorable towards you. The manner in whic
Day in, day out our goals are accomplished whether were aware of it or not. To a novice goals are accomplished haphazard, a random instance; to the trained individual they are a feat of planning and strategizing all set into motion for the sole purpose of attainment of needs and wants. Through looking back and reflecting on my goals I have realized and mastered the different strategies I have employed throughout my life to achieve needs. Achieving goals is similar to many acquired skills; only if time is taken to reflect on them will we be able to recognize our shortcomings and work on precise and effective strategies for improvement. The way I handle this goal again relies heavily on the openness strategy, the more open Neetu feels that I am with her, the more inclined she will become to open up to me. My primary goal is to have her accept my suggestion, whereas my secondary goal focuses on making her feel comfortable enough to accept my opinion without thinking of me as an outsider. This goal as with any other meaningful friendship goal is always worth pursuing. I feel that I have achieved and hopefully will continue to achieve new levels of closeness with friends using different strategies of relational maintenance that seem appropriate for each individual and their accompanying personality. As self-presentation goals tend to initiate a relationship, relational goals tend to maintain or manipulate it. Relational goals shape day-to-day activities between friends, co-workers etc. As an example consider a situation where I want to give my friend Neetu advice on a personal matter. A way of letting her know my intentions is for me to bring up a topic that leads into the discussion of my choice. After opening the subject I ask her what she thought of the matter, after completely hearing her side of the story I then interject with my opinion. The reason I completely hear her side of the story is to give her a complete sense of comfort, which breaks down the communication barrier and makes it much simpler for her to open up and not flat out refuse my opinion.
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