For Margaret, fourteen years of abuse came to an end one night when her husband finally got too drunk to completely control his actions, he hit his daughter. This is what it took for the police to take her husband to jail, and give her the restraining order she had so desperately wanted for years. Her husband had no prior criminal record, was a twenty four year Mariene, had a good job, and a lot of friends. After his arrest, he said the reason he did it was because Margaret had hid his alcohol. .
Why do people abuse their partners, and why do the abused partners stay in the relationships? Abuse and violence are mostly about control, the abuser controlling the abused, either emotionally, physically, verbally, or mentally. Many physiologists agree that there is a "cycle” of abuse. A man will abuse a woman, then show remorse, then becomes even more violent. Most women in these relationships believe that the abuse is because they are doing something wrong, so they try to please the man, but nothing will please him, and then they mistake his possessiveness for love, and allow the "cycle” to repeat itself. .
The typical male abuser is not normally violent. He is normally insecure and jealous, and uses the abuse to make himself feel in control, more powerful, and is prone to adictiveness. The number of women that get taken by these men is outstanding. Husbands, ex-husbands, and boyfriends kill about 1,400 women every year, and three to four million women are battered by their partners. Statistics say that one in every three women will be abused in their adult lifetimes, and violence will occur at least once in two-thirds of all marriages. In the united states, a woman is more likely to be assaulted, injured, raped or killed by a male partner than by any other type of assailant, and wife beating results in more injuries that require medical attention than rape, mugging, and auto accidents combined, and during the six months following a domestic violence incident, about thirty two percent of women are victimized again.